This is a redo of the post I put in ooc conflict (Only because I wasn't sure which forums people can be ooc in)

I changed this because I realized it was too long. Basically a point I was trying to make is that players need to find a way to communicate with someone else if there is a problem. There are people who do not always know how to act socially and maybe they said something you didn't like, but because they aren't socially perfect, what was a misunderstanding now turns into a huge problem. Someone (who has been put on ignore now) said my bringing this up is a cry for attention and that other people shouldn't have to accommodate someone else. Well, that's crap. Just because you don't like what someone says or the way they say it, it doesn't automatically mean what the person said is worthless.

This post has NOTHING to do with what may or may not have happened in the past or present. Its just something I have noticed and thought about. DR should be fun for everyone. And if that means that we try to find a way to work with someone who may not understand certain social situations, then that's what should be done. Maybe mentors can agree to help someone who is having issues relating to people. GMS are the ones who run DR, so maybe one of them can come up with ideas where everyone can play and people who are different don't have to worry whether someone is going to misunderstand them for something they say.

Communication is the answer to all things. So is pie.


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>open kit
Guess what? It's already open!

48 intelligence, eh...?

It's hard to speak in generalities for something like this, but I'll try.

* If your goal is to make people on the internet nice, then good luck. I'm sincere when I say that. Good luck, but just know that you're fighting against the tide.

* If your goal is to get GMs to police niceness then talk to Lyneya. I think you'll have slightly more success there, but I don't think they can do it in a way that wouldn't be gamed by the people who are generally causing problems. Every rule has a loophole/grey area/whatever. Rules like this tend to be abused more than anything.

* If this is just a general plea then I don't think it'll accomplish what you're looking to accomplish. The people who would respond to something like this are probably already nice. The people who aren't would probably get off on it.

At the end of the day, do what you can. You can't help everyone, and use the warn verb/assist as needed to insure someone isn't going a little too OOC on you. If it's in game, then give them space or play it off in character. Maybe play your character in a way that you yourself wouldn't respond if it were in the real world. It may be cathartic, in its own way.

>>In the spirit of this mindset, this is not how to communicate with someone if there is a problem.

I wasn't referring to any specific problem and I didn't say anything about trying to communicate via forums. All I wanted to get across is that not everyone knows how to communicate well. So if someone has an ooc problem with someone else, talk to them, don't just shut them out, because it might just be one big misunderstanding.

And to the person who pointed out my hypocrisy, see? I proved my own point of not always knowing how to properly communicate.

>open kit
Guess what? It's already open!

48 intelligence, eh...?

Thank you very much Ashbomb for the really good advice. Changing my profile statement is a good idea. I will try that.