>1) I hate knowing who is stealing from me but being able to do nothing about it.
There are two options. Kill them (or try anyways), or ignore it. RPing never works, because they still have your coin. In the rare event that someone will RP back with you, they still have your coin, and don't have to give it back. Kill them, without prejudice.
>2)Do we lose soul if we attack and/or kill someone who we caught stealing from us? First attack or not.
Short answer is yes.
Long answer is that stealing is considered first strike, so there is no soul hit, but you have to catch them (not spidey sense catch them). You will get a soul hit for murder, first strike or not.
Also... the soul hit for first strike is big. I've stayed at high end pristine after murder without the first strike penalty. Actually, 2 successive murders (within a minute or so) without a first strike, and I was still at pristine. Note: you will have to stand from shame/kneeling after the first murder, because Paladins are coded to be crybabies on purpose.
>3)What kind of anti-thief things do we have to help us out?
GoL, Clarity, and Sixth sense passively defend, but you still need perception. Watch, AS, Halt, GoW, SR, SP, and at-level knowledge of a ranged weapon if a rumble breaks out after.
HoJ isn't worth the effect anymore. Considering the old HoJ, crushing a hand (which ended the event) wasn't really worth it either.
-THE Noob
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