>>So is it out of line or too disruptive to the play environment to whisper to someone OOCly to please not hit on my character?

Not at all. If it's making you uncomfortable you should definately do this.

Agreed. If they're making you uncomfortable, I would definitely use the OOC verb to let them know it. I would hope people would understand and back off after that.

I know it's sort of lame, but I just give my characters IC reasons not to want to be in relationships if I don't feel like dealing with that stuff for OOC reasons.

One of them is old, crotchety, and not interested.

For one of the others I arranged for her to be engaged to an OOC friend of mine's character, so that I can semi-RP that aspect of her life without worrying about straying into weird RL-feelings territories.

I think lots of notable RP'ers have also done this very succesfully, but I guess I'll leave it to them if they want to speak up.

I do wish we had mechanical way to indicate whether or not our characters are interested in romance, like the demeanor options. The OOC whispering is sort of jarring IMHO.

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Yeah, obviously if she were a flirty character and I got upset it'd be silly! She never instigates the flirting, though. She is flirted to, then figures the best way to respond is playfully. And I wouldn't respond flirtily then whisper to them OOC: "Hey stop it!" as that would be strange. But if when someone started flirting, is it out of line to say "Sorry, do you mind not flirting with her today?"

I suppose I could just overhaul her personality too, which would be strange and uncomfortable (or reroll her as a dude which might not even help a lick besides the obvious downside to rerolling!) If I'd have realized how not fun it would be for me -- and again, this isn't always, just more often than it should be -- I'd have made her freaked out by flirting or something, heh. But now I want to do the most appropriate thing. Hm. Thank you everyone for your perspectives!

>>You know, I never run into this problem, on any character. Flirting happens so rarely that it's extremely comical to me when it does.

I dunno, people hit on Lorz . You know, the foul-mouthed flea-ridden elf? Lorz is basically a homeless person.

So yeah. I have no idea.

People used to hit on Szrael, but they don't anymore.

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>>Couldn't for the life of me tell you what I'm doing right, though.

It's your boyish charm and good looks.

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So, according to y'all, people who are friendly and affectionate invite flirting. Those who are cordial without being affectionate do not invite flirting. Mystery also seems to attract flirting and being the bad boy/girl. Meaness is another one that doesn't really seem to attract flirting either. Course, dare I say it but it also seems that certain ideas portrayed on the board also will invite in game flirting or detract it.

Handle it however you want and role play however you want. Change your characters persona or not. Some of us like to be affectionate and nice, some of us don't. Oh and people can be affectionate without being huggy smoochy wubby dubby.


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Might also want to consider the area in game in which you are playing. I've found that my characters get approached flirtingly more often in Crossing than elsewhere.

~ Player of Lyathe

if yer a thief, steal some maggots from the sorcerer lady south of the crossing ferry, and if someone gets too "friendly", slip a maggot into their hand....

nothing cools down hot lust like a cold, clammy maggot...




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I get a lot of flirty people (I'm flirty myself) and nearly all the flirtation is innocent and does no harm. But there are times that I get downright obnoxious people that cross over the flirty line and turn it into a very rude and unnappreciated advancement. Just have your character tell them that you're not interested. If that doesn't work then OOC them. But FYI mixed signals sent by you can cause you trouble. If you don't want to be flirted with then don't flirt.

>I like the cut of your jib.

See, I am irresistable. It's my cross to bear.


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On the topic of the post though...I'm not sure if the poster is male or female, RL...but you can fend off men pretty easy just by what you say to them...and you can still be really nice.

"Hey baby, how bout you and me go to the gazebo?"

"Aw...you're so CUTE, if I wasn't an empath I'd just pull off your arms and eat them."

or...

"You know what would be REALLY fun? You let me turn you into a girl and we do your hair up in pigtails!"

or...(I've used this)

"I don't date people I can(t) kill."

When I was a waitress I used to wear a wedding ring all the time. It's the GREATEST libido killer. Just tap that thing when they get out of hand and wink at em.

I've noticed men tend to lose interest when you're conquest status has changed to "taken". So use at your own risk.

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>>This has never worked for me, in RL or in DR.<<

Me either. When I say I'm taken it seems to go from simple interest to a personal quest.

<<When I say I'm taken it seems to go from simple interest to a personal quest.>>
To me it's all in how its delivered. If the gesture seems mandatory on her part, or half hearted... Game on!

Ackfer - Halfling in a Can, No Fillers Here!

You have to consider the playerbase. I highly doubt DR is filled with a whole bunch of studs that attract women with their personalities in their day to day lives. So whenever they see a female IG, they're interested.

I barely play with my Empath, and have only started playing more with her recently, yet she has been hit on more times than my main character of 4 1/2 years. Solution? Either put the hormonal guys off or play a male character.


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>studs that attract women with their personalities in their day to day lives.

Humorously enough I'm completely oblivious to it until they get as subtle as a brick to the genitals, but I've been told by others this is the case with Kougen way more than even I realize.

Then again, that could just be a rumor started out of pity for me. /shrug

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The way some women in this and other threads seem to be describing it, none of their female characters, even the AWW MEANIEFACE ones can take two steps without being hit on, so maybe I really am just oblivious to the whole thing.

Or maybe some of them just mistake "talking to" and "being friendly" as flirting.

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>>Or maybe some of them just mistake "talking to" and "being friendly" as flirting.

Haha it's very easy to get conditioned this way. I think the second day I ever played DR I was hunting in rats when someone told me they'd "teach me secrets" but I had to go to an inn room where no one else could hear. I innocently obliged, and lets just say after that my character developed a cold demeanor towards prydaens.

<<If this is true it's kind of disturbing, kinda funny but disturbing none the less. If not it's just funny >>

disturbing. Funny would be if they took ya in there and then cut off yer head and said, "here's a sercet, don't follow strangers into an Inn Room NOOB!!" and ran out.



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