> Serious question, is your brother a little kid?

No. He has been described all his life as a "free spirit. But that's hardly relevant. We are all adults playing a text game for large portions of the day. I'd say we are all a little disfuntional.

Not to mention that most people don't stay rational when they feel attacked. He can get emotional (as can I, family trait) in situations like this.

Everyone will see things their way, and no one is wrong where their feelings are concerned. That makes communication rather difficult.

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Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
Abraham Lincoln

I think that was the most important lesson so far in my life.

Let things go.


Besides that:

I don't know everything, and never will.

> but as JMF points out there is probably a lesson here neither of you are apparently getting.

Wow! There's the pot calling the kettle black. That aside, it must be nice up there on that horse. You COULD try to speak at the level of us little people. It would so honor us.

> This is the error of your ways...it's just a game. You play it with others, they > will not always agree with you. If you do get mad, just relax and remember that > it's not a big deal.

Yep, you know, the second half of this is great stuff, despite paraphrasing some of my post. But you start it by telling the person they are wrong. How do you expect someone to listen after that?

There is evidence of such education from many of the people on these boards, yet...

<sigh>

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Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
Abraham Lincoln

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~Arwinia

The Empath spellbook is a riddle trapped in an enigma hidden inside a lot of suck.-Armifer

>But you start it by telling the person they are wrong. How do you expect someone to listen after that?

Maybe to find out why you might be wrong?

I mean, unless you're infallible, in which case you might as well stop reading.

>>Wow! There's the pot calling the kettle black. That aside, it must be nice up there on that horse. You COULD try to speak at the level of us little people. It would so honor us.

>>There is evidence of such education from many of the people on these boards, yet... <sigh>

The best way to argue against the use of gwethsmashers is to communicate in a fashion that makes their behavior toward you seem unwarranted.

-Armifer
<Kvlt> Step 1: Want stuff! Step 2: Be ambitious! Step 3: Believe in the ability of your fellow man to carry you to heights you are too incompetent to reach alone.

The bottom line is this: Your brother got smashed. Repeatedly. He has a few options available.

1. Man up and do something about getting smashed. If I remember correctly from the times that I've been smashed, you get messaging that reveals who your smasher is. Taking action against his smasher will probably get him killed. Repeatedly.

2. He can change the behavior/gwething that have caused him to get smashed, up to and including removal of gweths.

3. He can decide to continue with his pattern of behavior/gwething, but accept the fact that he's going to get smashed. Whining, complaining, or otherwise displaying bitterness about getting smashed can often times result in another smashing by someone else, so truly accepting the smashing in the first place will probably result in fewer smashes overall.

4. He can hire someone to kill the smasher. Sometimes this isn't such a great option. If the smasher finds out you've hired someone to get revenge, most likely you will not only have paid a lot of plats to someone, but you will probably die. Repeatedly.

5. Quit.

As other posters have mentioned, this IS a game. Things happen. Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone will appreciate the awesomeness of your RP. Some people will kill you for what appears to be no reason. There is an educational process that goes on within the player population about what is or is not acceptable behavior. Your brother is the recipient of one aspect of this educational process.

Keeping things in the proper perspective is important. Gwethsmashing is and will continue to be a part of the game. Gweths are relatively easy to get, and cheap to buy. The only people who might say this is not the case are those that live out on some of the remote islands where traders and gweth making moonies might not frequent.

As for yourself, when you come to the forums with an issue that isn't related to your character, but on behalf of someone else, a lot of people are going to perceive this as juvenile. Very similar to 6th grader Johnny asking one of his friends to ask one of Susie's friends if Susie likes Johnny. You can take some of the words that have been written in response to your posts, and either learn from them, laugh at them, or become upset by them. Getting upset at the responses you get is somewhat silly.

Some people have offered some words of wisdom, some lessons learned, while others have openly ridiculed you and/or your brother. Keep things in perspective. It's a game. Not everyone is going to get along. The definition of insanity is... doing the same thing, the same way, over and over again, but expecting a different result. If your brother continues his pattern of behavior with no changes, the same result will occur. That's virtually guaranteed.


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If it helps, just think of yourself as the fluorescent light in the buglamp of life.

- GM Dartenian

>>Okay why is the use of any other item only warranted when someone attacks you. If you attack first, you face a policy violation. Gwethsmashers can be used at any time though and the user is exempt from policy. Why is there a difference between gwethsmashers and other methods of affecting/abusing players?

Well that's easy, because gweths are a replaceable item. Just like stealing coin or gems isn't against policy. Those actions just grant consent to the victim. If all actions against another player were against policy then what kind of game would it be? Oh yeah, a daily episode of carebears.

Vote DR as TOP MUD: http://www.topmudsites.com/vote-cemm.html

>I'm just trying to see the smashers' side of things in this case.

In my experience, in most cases the smashing resulted from the smashee annoying somebody somehow who either then smashed the smashee or enlisted a friend to smash the smashee. It ain't rocket surgery.

Tell your brother not to worry about it. It happens in fantasy textrealms somewhat often and it's not something to dwell on.

On an RP note, there are a few options open to your brother (other than the standard policy rules). I know certain members of the Goose family will retaliate on your behalf if you ask them nicely and pay them. Somewhat similarly, Rmel (me) will offer his professional spokesperson services and confront the smasher on your behalf if you ask him nicely and pay him an agreed upon amount.

In short, the worst thing your brother can do is dwell on the smashing or make a big deal about it - it's just part of the game.

>>This is ironic since the main smasher is/was Eladrin, a Goose. Of course, I'm sure of the price is right, he may even kill himself...

Good grief, your brother got smashed twice, more than a month apart for being annoying and about 10 people have stated they'd do the same thing. LET IT GO

~Arwinia

The Empath spellbook is a riddle trapped in an enigma hidden inside a lot of suck.-Armifer

> Good grief, your brother got smashed twice, more than a month apart for being annoying and about 10 people have stated they'd do the same thing. LET IT GO

Now's who's taking this too seriously? I was joking around. I was hoping I wouldn't have to spell it out after suggesting that Eladrin might kill himself for the right price.

Consider it LET GO.

But accept the fact that I will chime in on these Forums just like you do in nearly every thread I've ever read. It won't always be about smashers. No, really.

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Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
Abraham Lincoln

So? Did I tell you or even request that you stop posting?

Seriously, you and your brother are both far too sensitive and take things way too personally.

After two months of hearing about Stormtears being the saddest sad that his gweths got smashed and it makes him the most depressing depressed yeah, you might need to spell it out.

Although the stories he concocted about how he's being conspired against have been hilarious.

~Arwinia

The Empath spellbook is a riddle trapped in an enigma hidden inside a lot of suck.-Armifer

1. you think to chime in on every discussion whether it involves you or not. And never a helpful comment either, you just post to snarp. yeah. you. arwinia.

2. And I've only ever been smashed twice. And the 2nd time I killed the smasher.





It's a number, it gets bigger. That's the whole DR experience right there

which explains why I had to chase her all the way from crossing to shard where she was sitting in a non-violence room.




It's a number, it gets bigger. That's the whole DR experience right there

move over to conflicts.


It's a number, it gets bigger. That's the whole DR experience right there

Maybe you need an Equine Cemetary Conflicts folder?

~Faih

>>I enjoy trying to figure out what Rmel is saying. Someone gwething from a soap box ends up on my ignor list.

It's only hilarious because even his thoughts seem to have a lisp.

>It's only hilarious because even his thoughts seem to have a lisp.

Numerous physicians have stated that as a result of Jhime's vicious sock to Rmel's snout, Rmel suffers from a situation that is symptomatic of a psychosomatic condition, and as such he lisps his sibilant sounds in his thoughts as well as in his face-to-face speech.


Or he could be faking. It's hard to say for sure.

>Personally I think he just enjoys driving some folks completely insane. That way he can sit back and laugh when everyone on the gweth threatens the person that insults him.

That is absurd!

Hobbes would be wrong. The gay penguins prove that absurdity affects many other species.


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